Paradigms

I love the word 'paradigms'.  It's a word that I introduce to 6th graders in my Leadership class.  Because life is based on our perceptions - of ourselves, of others, of situations - and what you see is what you believe.  Paradigms are the "is the glass half full or half empty" paradox.  Based on our belief system, core values, our relationships and experiences…we see situations and people very differently.

Differences in perception is a difficult concept for my 6th graders.  Paradigms are why we argue, fight, debate, disagree, battle and war - why we have Republicans and Democrats, Pro-Life and Pro-Choice, Ying and Yang, Pro and Con. And we need to realize there is that other perspective.

That's difficult.  Even for some adults.  Even for me...

When I was in my 20s and 30s, I couldn't understand why some of my classmates never attended Class Reunions.  I loved high school…didn't everyone else?  You might be laughing at my question, but I didn't realize for many years that not everyone loved high school - not everyone I graduated with had the same perspective on school.  And until I started teaching, that realization became clear as I witnessed how some students just survive their school day.  Sometimes our paradigms change because of our experiences.  And then I began to empathize with my classmates.  I still value my high school experience and will continue to attend reunions, but I respect their decisions not to attend.

People don't wake up in the morning with the intent to irritate you.  If you are confused, befuddled or stymied…ask those people you live, work, or connect with to tell you their side of the story.  I promise you'll learn something and you'll strengthen your empathy for others.  Plus, then it gives you permission to tell your side of the story - you get to educate others and reaffirm your beliefs and values.

Today I wish you the belief in your paradigms, the courage to share with others and the empathy to listen to someone else's perspective.